Loss can be a very difficult issue to face. We usually think of loss connected to someone we love dying but loss can relate to many aspects of our lives. At 19 I had an injury that meant I had to stop training as a dancer the only career I had ever wanted. This was a huge loss for me as I had lost my career and what I loved to do more than anything else. I didn’t understand any of this back then and so I dealt with my loss badly. We can loose people we love, aspects of ourselves, relationships, with others through divorce or arguments.
Loss is one of the most toxic areas I deal with! If we don’t fully face our loss we can carry the pain for years. We think that because a loss has happened in the past, maybe many years ago, the feelings have gone. The shocking news is that our traumatic emotions like anger, grief, sadness and fear don’t just float away. We can carry these horrendous emotions eternally if we don’t face them. Saying that it is important to manage this process carefully. I teach clients how to grieve their loss in a balanced way so they don’t shift into overwhelm or depression.
What are the symptoms of grief?
- Overwhelming tiredness and exhaustion.
- Restlessness ‒ feeling unable to sit still.
- Aches and pains, e.g. headaches, backache, neck pain, rib and chest pain.
- Anxiety attacks.
- Difficulty breathing.
- Loss of appetite.
- Comfort eating.
- Finding it hard to sleep or fear of sleeping
If you would like to discuss your concerns regarding dealing with loss or are looking for a loss counsellor, please contact me through the online enquiry form or telephone 01926 743698.